This is a view of what my office looks like... sometimes it looks like my kitchen, sometimes like my living room and sometimes even the bedroom. It's been 2 whole months now of being a work from home/stay at home dad and let me tell you... it's not easy. But who would change this beautiful face for a cubicle? Sometimes, it feels like it would be easier to go to an office and sit behind a desk in a cubicle, but then I see this smile and I wouldn't change this for anything.
I've always read and heard successful people talking about the value of time, but it wasn't until 2 months ago, when my wife went back to work that I truly understood the value of time. Yes, we say and repeat, "time is more valuable than money because you never get time back and money is easy to make", "plan and organize your priorities", and all of that great valuable information we see posted on social media everyday... but I thought I knew the information until I added a title to my life. From being a work from home husband, to now I'm also a stay at home dad. Check out my Work With Me tab or click here.
My days usually start at 5:30AM, when my wife is also up getting ready to go to work. Gianna (my daughter) is normally asleep at that time so that's when I take advantage of TIME and by 6:30AM I'm already working. Gianna will wake up between 7:30-8AM, ready for a diaper change and for her early morning snack (milk in a bottle). By this time, I've already gotten most of my admin stuff out of the way. Depending on her night, she'll either go back to sleep around 9AM or stay awake and completely skip her morning nap. Which she'll normally nap until 10:30AM. As you can see... I have a schedule pretty much set already. It's in between changing her diapers, feeding her, taking her on walks 2-3 times a day on her stroller (which is when I make a lot of phone calls), playing with her (she loves being outside), carrying her, and putting her to sleep that I get to work.
I get to work small periods at a time and sometimes, she'll only nap for about 10-15 minutes... so that's a really short period to do much. I have to take advantage of every minute I have to do what I have to do. That means every phone call, every meeting, conference call, post on social media has to be meaningful and profitable. I've cut down on blogging, but then again it's not like I have a lot of followers, I've cut down on the time I make personal calls and I've cut down on my workouts. I haven't stopped doing those things, but now I keep an eye at how long I do them.
There's times when I'm in the middle of a phone call with a client or potential client and Gianna begins to cry... at first I panicked... "what do I do? what do I say?" but I quickly learned to leverage from this. I call her my lucky charm. I've been to appointments with her, she's a big part of my conversations on my phone calls and I let people know that I work from home. By staying honest to myself and being so transparent and sharing such personal information with my clients -- it somehow creates trust and builds rapport so quickly, that my production has increased in these 2 months.
Has it been easy? No way! Do I feel overwhelmed? Sometimes I do. Have I had to make changes? Absolutely! Is it worth it? Oh man... just look at her lovely smile... she looks just like her mom. I wouldn't change this for anything in the world. I get to see and raise my child and not leave her in the hands of a baby sitter. Maybe all of that reading, leadership and working on myself to become better was a preparation for this.
It's funny how we say we need to manage time. Time keeps going... we can't manage time, but we can manage what we do with the time we have available. I have my priorities and believe me, they change and have to be adjusted almost daily... but I take advantage of the time I have available and I do my best to stick to those priorities. It's hard not to become disciplined when I have such a BIG WHY sitting right in front of me.
Working from home and being my own boss is not for everyone because it takes discipline and self-motivation. Adding a child to the equation makes it even harder... but to me it's certainly doable and more rewarding than sitting behind a desk in a cubicle working for someone else and only seeing my baby a couple of hours a day. Trust me, I'm not perfect, I have my off days... I just do my best, then push a little more and leave the rest in the hands of God. If you have the opportunity to work from home -- don't be afraid of the challenge. It's been a great adventure for me so far.
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Tuesday was my last post for this week and it was about our radio show. All of a sudden things feel like they're falling on me like a huge weight. We were asked to move to another town home in our community last minute. The whole complex is being renovated and our lease was up this month, but we were planning on staying one more year. I have a 100 mile ride next weekend, which I've only trained for in the last few weeks, our company is making a huge change, (really good change), and the one that scares me the most is that my wife goes back to work on Monday. Since I work from home, we decided that I would take care of Gianna (our baby) while she's at work. All this just feels like it's coming down on us (my wife and I) all at the same time. I guess what threw us off was the unexpected move. Somehow, my wife and I have managed to stay calm and just take things as they come and accept the changes, but this week was overwhelming. I've managed to keep up my production in my business, plus add on to the 2 new business ventures and the radio show and still tend to our family, my fitness, and everything I committed to do.
This Tuesday on the radio, my closing statement was about stopping for a little moment and truly see where I'm standing and where I'm heading and truly answer if I'm heading down the path I want to be going. I realized that even though my whole life is changing, I'm truly happy with who I am and where I'm going. I'm not satisfied, but I realized that for the longest time I was not happy, I was frustrated and I couldn't focus. In the last 3 months, now I have more responsibilities, things are changing like crazy for me, but I have more direction and even though I still make mistakes, it's not as stressful as before because of a few things I realized I'm doing.
1. I have prioritized my priorities (if that makes any sense). I have my priorities in order and I take care of things in that order. I am not allowing the outside factors that I can't control determine my daily activities and actions. Even though we were hit with this move, I'm still scheduling my priorities so that I can get them done even with the move.
2. I have eliminated people that were bringing me down from my life, (even if it wasn't their intentions), and I'm allowing people who are adding light into my life. I am only giving my time to the people who are heading in the same direction as me and together we're growing whether it's in my business, family, health and fitness.
3. I'm focused on what I have to do at that moment and I give it my full attention. Whether it's changing my baby's diapers, feeding her or putting her to sleep, to making my phone calls, appointments, presentations, to riding my bike or working out and everything I have scheduled. I'm paying attention to the moment, I'm enjoying the process and making sure I do it at my best without having all of the distractions that I used to let bother me.
4. I'm scheduling everything. From the time I have to wake up, to what I'm going to eat, to my trainings, to when I'm going to make a phone call and Gianna is already falling into an eating and sleeping schedule. I used to rely too much on my memory, but I'm noticing that trying to remember everything doesn't allow for structure. It's almost like I was afraid of commitment, because if I schedule it, then I must do it and if something "better" came up then I thought I would miss out. Nothing better ever came. I had to make things better by committing and make the best of what I scheduled. One thing for sure... if it's not something that will take me closer to my ultimate goals and my purpose, then I just say "NO" and I don't schedule, which takes me to #5.
5. I'm only scheduling things or events that will take me closer to where I'm going (my priorities). I'm not afraid to say "NO"! Also, I'm not waiting on other people to make decisions, I plan what I want and need to do, and if others want to come along, then they're welcomed. For example, a family event where no one can make up their mind. My wife and I say, we're going here, we're staying here and this is what we're doing. If anyone wants to come along, they know what we're doing and what our plans are. This has allowed me to not waste time especially in my businesses and in my workouts.
6. I'm not focusing on the money. Before I would stress out about making money, making money, making money. Now I noticed I'm just focused on being happy and being at peace. Because of my change in focus, it's very easy for me to do the things I want and have to do. This is a huge change for me and it feels good. Even though I did feel the weight of so many changes that came during the same time this week, I was able to just take it in, see things clearly and just make a few adjustments that allowed me to keep going. (Not writing in my blog this week until tonight was an adjustment and here I am writing).
7. This one may sound very "cliche" but here it goes. Everything I'm doing, I'm doing it with love. I was going to put this one with #6, but I feel it's different. This has taken away any fear that I have to pursue my crazy goals. Just because I'm happy and at peace it doesn't mean I'm satisfied. I guess this is a result of all the previous 6 especially the people I've allowed myself to be surrounded by and because I'm doing things that are taking me closer to what I feel is my purpose.
Many people told me that my life would change when I had my baby, but it's gotten to the point to where it seems like people are expecting me to be perfect. If I have a small challenge, the first thing that comes out of their mouths is, "See, now you see how kids make it hard for us?" I'm amazed at how people put their kids as excuses for not being able to do things and they use kids as excuses to stay in their comfort zone. I have challenges, I'm not perfect, but one thing I haven't done is say that I can't do what I have to do because of my child. Maybe it's too soon, but she's going on 3 months and I've managed to not only keep up with my production in my business, but also added my fitness challenge on my bike and I took on 2 other business ventures. Where did this come from all of a sudden... I have to go back to #7. The love that Gianna brought the day she was born, truly lit up my spirit, heart and soul and it's given me that drive that I didn't have for a long time. I don't see Gianna as an excuse to not be able to do things -- on the contrary, I see Gianna as a reason to do more in life and still give her my full attention.
Finally, I would have to say #8. I have a beautiful, loving wife that has been by my side no matter how crazy my goals and ventures are. People say I'm a dreamer, but I am what I am... and I do what ever it takes to make sure I can light up another person's candle and hope, but not expect, that the other person will pay it forward and help me light up as many candles as they can so that we can make a difference in this world. I'm able to do this and everything I mentioned above with unconditional love thanks to my wife, Adriana. I love her with all my heart.
Recap 2013 and my projections for 2014!
So I am now officially a father. My first born. A girl, Gianna Giselle Nilo, born on November 9th, 2013 at 7:10PM. My wife Adriana did such a great job during labor. The doctors weren't able to give her the epidural, so she suffered through labor, but thank God, everything turned out great. Becoming a father and seeing your baby being born is an indescribable feeling. I've always heard other people say that the love of a father to their children is a feeling only a true father can experience and I'm blessed to have felt this and gone through this great experience.
Last night started a new chapter in my life and I'm thankful to God that I was given this path. Now I have 2 loves of my life, my beautiful wife, Adriana and my daughter Gianna Giselle. They are my "why" and my daily motivation and inspiration to keep grinding away in my life ventures. Thank you God and Adriana for giving me such a great gift. I am truly blessed.
My Journey to Become a Millionaire
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